I found this scripture last week and it is working on me. I have a friend (and I use that term loosely) that has caused me MUCH heartache, much sadness, and has caused me to worry and fret for unknown reasons. I'm not going to write about the hurt she's caused me, not going to tell the whole story...I want to let it go, move on, because I have some amazing friends. Why do I let this ONE person have this affect one me? I have prayed about this SO much, I have cried about this SO much, and I decided that I'm moving on. I have to or it's going to kill me.
I hope that whoever reads this realizes that if you have a problem with someone resolve it - if for whatever reason you are jealous of someone; walk a day in their shoes - know that for those hurtful things you are doing you are causing someone heartache and pain - if someone has wronged you forgive them.
We wonder why there is such a 'bullying' problem in the world today. Look at how adults treat each other. It's sad really. I think about how God must feel when we don't treat each other right. Afterall we are ALL his children; nothing pains me more than to see my children mistreated. Nothing would hurt me more than to hear someone saying something bad about one of my kids. I would be crushed to know that somebody doesn't like one of my kids... How do you think God feels??
The hurt she's caused me is possibly unknown to her or maybe she really doesn't care for me or that she hurts me. Regardless my ultimate goal is to meet my Savior and because of that I will "Do unto others as I would have them do unto me" and I will "Pay them back with a blessing..."
Oh- was I in your shoes not too long ago. Well I have experienced this with 5 people in the last 3 years. And I will be honest- I still struggle, I still worry, I still stress, I STILL CRY, but is it better and getting better. And I am learning who my true companions are and they don't have to be a part of my everyday life. They are in my hearts as I am in theirs. And they are on the same missions in life that I am - like parallel roads I was told. So the ones with too many intersections and hills and curves and whindy(sp?) parts - I have put up guard rails- some see the guard rails some don't. I don't need to be protecting myself though, God will. And trust me the opportunities he seems to throw at me to test me-WOW! And I am sure some people don't like me for the way I am standing. But this is what is right in my heart-after a lot of prayer and study! A lot! Really, like just when I think I got it! Boom and Boom Boom! BUT-Hands down- this is what finally clicked for me!Best advice a person could have shared with me during this struggle.
ReplyDeleteAwesome Shae!!! I've been there & still get there sometimes with just ONE girl as well! You should be very proud of yourself for realizing & for making changes! I wish we as women would all come together to support one another instead of trying to tear each other down. I hope you find peace in this situation & that God blesses you for your loving & giving spirit! Much love & hang in there...nothing stays the same forever.
ReplyDeleteThanks girl! I am not by any means saying I'm not guilty or ever in the wrong. I'm trying to work on myself...this is the #1 area where I am struggling. I have come a long way with this situation but am by no means at total peace. In time I will, I'm working with all of me to give it to God!
DeleteWay to go with the awesome positive attitude! I have a "friend" like this as well...really I think we all do! I just learn to take them as they are...they're fighting their own battles. So glad to know others have the same things...I really wish we, as women, would share more as friends instead of feeling like we are always in competition! Love your thoughts on this! Keep the positive attitude...it rubs off! :)
ReplyDeleteWhy we are being honest here- It is even worse when this is with family!!! So much pain...but just another moment, day, and experience with them...and tmrw they may be another one. But it too shall pass...
ReplyDeleteI think it's hard when you love someone and you don't feel that in return. I love people and forgive easily, and I get hurt because of it. I guess for those people we pray for them and hope that one day they know we were only trying to be there for them and bless them.
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